How to Be More Interesting in 11 Simple Steps

Discover your innate interestingness with 11 steps. Break free of mundane routines, engage with captivating topics, be more charismatic, and be more successful!

Most people have a secret wish to be more interesting. How do I know?

Google told me. This morning I logged on to do my monthly check of our website analytics. As I settled in with my coffee to peruse our latest numbers, search hits and demographics, I stumbled upon an interesting little finding.

While scrolling through our top search terms (what people search to get to the Science of People website) I found this phrase was at the top of the list:

“How to Be Interesting”

This intrigued me. Why? Because it is not a word I often hear people use. I hear people say:

• I want to be more memorable
• I want to be more charismatic
• I want to be more impressive
• I want to be more powerful
• I want to be more attractive
• I want to be more successful

But, I _almost neve_r hear “I want to be more interesting”—at least not in person. Interesting it seems is a secret wish, a secret we tell only to search engines. Well, worry no more!

Here’s the good news:

You are interesting.

But there is one problem:

The biggest barrier to being more interesting is fear.

Fear causes us to doubt our interestingness. In fear mode we:

• Worry about people judging our ideas
• Doubt ourselves
• Are afraid of what people will think of us

So we hide what’s interesting about us. We keep our ideas inside. We don’t share our true selves. Bottom line:

Your fear of being uninteresting makes you uninteresting.

Fear shuts us down. It not only shuts down our desire to share interesting things, it also shuts down our desire to do interesting things.

But guess what? You are in direct control of how interesting a person you are. Interestingness and laziness are inversely proportional. I call this the lazy law:

The Lazy Law

The lazier you are, the less interesting you will be.

The more proactive you are, the more interesting you will be.

Have you ever met a lazy talker? They don’t take ownership of their ideas or the conversation. Here’s what it’s like talking to an uninteresting person:

Uninteresting people are lazy.

• They don’t do interesting things.
• They don’t think interesting thoughts.
• They expect you to do all the talking.
• They want to be entertained by the people around them.

But it doesn’t have to be this way! All you have to do is:

FIGHT THE LAZY!

Here’s how you can fight the lazy and bring on the interesting.

Here’s how you can be a more interesting person in 25 steps:

Stop Doing Uninteresting Things

Oh wow, you watch Netflix? Do you watch it on your iPad or computer? NO! This is not interesting. If you come home every day after work and watch the same shows everyone else is watching and do the lowest common denominator of activities, then you have no chance of being interesting.

Here’s what lazy people do:

• They watch TV every day
• They eat at the same restaurants over and over again
• They go to the same vacation spot every year
• They only read the books that were assigned in high school
• They spend hours checking their social media feeds
• They talk about the weather
• They expect other people to do all the talking

These are all default topics. Don’t stick with the default settings. Don’t do what everyone else is doing. Don’t watch what everyone else is watching.

If you want to be a more interesting person, you have to do interesting things.

Here’s how you can level up your life and dial down your laziness:

• Try a new restaurant you have driven by a million times but never tried
• Create a bucket list and pledge to do one activity every month
• Go to the movie theater and watch a movie that you would never normally choose
• Sign up for a workout class that you have never done before
• Pick up a magazine you would never normally read and explore it cover to cover
• Start a learning bucket list and learn one new skill
• Say yes to the next 5 requests—-no matter what they are

Stop Asking About Uninteresting Things

Being interesting is about doing interesting things, but the flip side is being interested in other people’s interesting things.

You become interesting when you are interested in other people’s interestingness.

Lazy people bring out the uninteresting side in other people. They:

• Ask boring questions like ‘What do you do?’
• Ask ‘How are you?’ and don’t really mean it
• Talk about the weather
• Ask what TV shows people are watching

Why even bother with these questions? What’s the point of asking boring questions? You don’t learn anything and you make the person you are with even less interesting.

Here’s how you can level up your life and be more interesting with every person you meet:

• Ask someone about the weirdest thing they have ever eaten.
• Ask someone what’s on their bucket list and if you can help them accomplish any of it.
• Ask someone about the movie that most changed their life.
• Ask someone about a new skill they are learning.
• Ask someone about their personal passion project.
• Ask someone what their New Year’s Resolutions were and if they accomplished them.

Break auto-pilot and social scripts with your questions—-you will be rewarded with great answers.

Consume Interesting Things

We consume all day long. We consume food and drink, we consume media, we consume information.

What you consume makes up who you are.

Lazy people are uninteresting because they consume uninteresting things:

• They read news from the default browser homepage
• They get updates from friends on their social media feeds instead of actually talking to them.
• They eat fake food from vending machines or freezers.
• They consume media and don’t question the source.
• They read from sources that already confirm their beliefs.
• They only watch blockbuster movies.
• They only read bestsellers.

Yes, it’s easier to stick with the default. It’s easier to eat what’s given to you. It’s easier to read and watch what everyone else is reading and watching.

But who said easy was fun? It certainly isn’t interesting.

Try this:

• Ask your local librarian for his or her 5 favorite books of all time and read them.
• Ask your role model for a movie that changed his or her life and go watch it.
• Read a news source that is known for being the opposite of your political views and see what you learn.
• Find a new favorite news columnist.
• Read books that stimulate fascinating conversations.

Ask People About the Interesting Things They Are Consuming

It’s hard to network, make memorable conversations and build connections. But you can do it! You just have to fight to be interesting by breaking out of autopilot.

One of the easiest ways to stimulate interesting conversation is to ask people about:

• What they think
• How they think
• What intrigues them
• What they are learning
• How they learn
• Weird things they have seen/eaten/done/heard
• Surprising things they have seen/eaten/done/heard

Decide to become an interesting detective.

Decide that you are going to uncover every interesting tidbit about every person you meet.

If you expect people to be interesting, they often rise to your expectations.

Here’s a little mental trick I use…I assume that every person I meet has a secret back story and I have to write an article about them tomorrow. First, it informs my questions to be more specific. Second, I assume they are already interesting—I just need to uncover what it is.

And if you’re further interested in leveling up your charm, check out this goodie:

Hang Out with Interesting People

The final step to being interesting is to find interesting people to hang out with. Typically, interesting people hang out together—and now that’s you!

Interesting people encourage the people around them to do interesting things, talk about interesting topics, and engage with interesting ideas.

Let’s quickly take stock:

Who is the most interesting person you know?_______________________

Who is the funniest person you know?_______________________

Who is the most well-read person you know?_______________________

Who is the most well-traveled person you know?_______________________

Who is the strangest person you know?______________________

Thought of someone for each prompt? Good! Now go hang out with them. They are your interesting tribe.

Had trouble answering those prompts? Then you need to build your tribe.

Learn how to make friends as an adult (non-awkwardly).

Have Your Signature Quirk

Your “signature quirk” is basically anything you say or do consistently that makes you unique. A charming quirk that sets you apart and leaves a lasting impact.

Here’s the secret sauce: Your signature quirk can be anything—-a witty catchphrase, a quirky fashion statement, or even a unique hobby. It’s the little detail that people associate with you.

Remember James Bond and his perfectly shaken martinis? You remembered, right? That’s it!

But worry not! Having your own signature quirk doesn’t have to be a Hollywood-level production.

You just have to be consistent and authentic by being yourself. You can try these quirky things:

• Your signature greeting: Greet others with a mysterious wink, a playful salute, a secret handshake that leaves them intrigued and eager to connect further, or a spontaneous high-five followed by a goofy dance move, sparking instant laughter—but remember to do this appropriately.

• Your signature toast: Ever give a toast? Don’t be boring! You can steal the “To drinking like pirates and laughing like Minions!” inspired by Pirates of the Caribbean and Despicable Me, or you can try these:

• “Here’s to nights so epic, even our smartphones can’t keep up!”

• “To the friends who know all our secrets but love us anyway—bottoms up!”

• “May our cocktails be strong and our hangovers be short!”

• “Here’s to surviving another week—-let’s drink to that!”

• Your signature food(s): Don’t be shy about sharing your preferred ANYTHING (food is a good one to start with), whether it’s a bold Patron-Red Bull mix, eating burritos with ketchup, or having the midnight munchies… several times per week.

• Your signature excuse: Need a witty comeback? Give this a shot: “It happens to the worst of us….”, it is a playful spin on “It happens to the best of us.”. Imagine forgetting someone’s name mid-conversation—-just shrug it off with a casual, “Oh well, it happens to the worst of us…”

• Your signature movie line: Channeling your inner Russell Crowe, you often pull out the memorable line from Gladiator: “Are you not entertained?” But you don’t need to memorize a movie line, either. Try one of these awesome work jokes the next time you want to make things interesting: 294 Funniest Work Jokes For The Work of The Day (Ultimate List)

Consistently Embark on Micro-Adventures

You don’t need to climb Everest to be interesting (though you could if you wanted to).

Learn to find adventure in your everyday life through micro-adventures.

Here are some ideas:

• Have a “yes day” where you agree to every (safe and legal) suggestion
• Spend a night camping in your backyard or local park (where permitted)
• Explore your city like a tourist, visiting places you’ve never been
• Try a “technology fast” for 24 hours and see what happens

Document your micro-adventures and share them with others to inspire more everyday excitement!

Take Up An Interesting Hobby

Break free from the same old routine and take a look into some exciting hobbies because let’s be honest, being interesting is not just about what you do for work.

Being interesting is about the passions and pursuits that you enjoy.

Keyword here: Enjoy! So if you don’t enjoy something, don’t force yourself. Here are some of my faves:

• Shake it up: Try dancing—-whether it’s the swing, salsa, or even breakdancing. Let loose and groove to the rhythm! Attend local dance classes (source) or join online communities (source) to refine your moves and meet like-minded enthusiasts.
• Martial Arts Mastery: From the fluid grace of karate to the fierce intensity of Jiu-jitsu, find your fighting style and embrace the journey of self-mastery. Start with beginner classes and gradually challenge yourself to advance through the ranks.
• Abracadabra: Some people love magic tricks, and that can make you more interesting for them. Learn magic tricks to dazzle friends, family, or even your boss!

Want tutorials? You can watch this for starters:

• Reach new heights: Wanna conquer your fear? Feel the rush of adrenaline as you scale breathtaking cliffs and push your limits. You can start with indoor climbing gyms.

Remember: Balance your hobbies with work and rest for a fulfilling lifestyle, no pressure to do hobbies just because the “cool kids” do them. Remember these 4 words:

• Mix: Try to aim for a variety of hobbies. I like to pick one for relaxation (meditation or going for walks), one for physical activities (hiking or sports), one for mental (reading or writing), and one job-related (like learning a new professional skill).
• Stir: Try to integrate these hobbies throughout your day or week, giving time to get better at these hobbies.
• Rest: We want to avoid burnout (remember the story of the turtle and the hare?), so give yourself grace and relax when you need it.
• Repeat: Consistency is key! Even spending just 10 minutes a day on a hobby can get you far in the long run.

Try Positive Interrogation

Ever wonder how to transform mundane chitchat into captivating exchanges that leave a lasting impact?

Get ready to make the interrogation—-not the intense, police-style kind, but the engaging, curiosity-driven approach that turns dull dialogues into interesting exchanges.

Here’s how:

• Craft provocative queries: Skip the small talk and go straight into the juicy stuff. Ask about their wildest dreams, most thrilling adventures, or deepest passions. Get them talking about what truly sets their soul on fire. Instead of “How’s your day?”, ask “What’s the most exciting thing you’ve done recently?” Definitely check out these: 57 Killer Conversation Starters So You Can Start A Conversation With Anyone, Anytime
• Reveal, but don’t spill: Keep them on their toes by revealing just enough about yourself to provoke wonder and make them more interested. Drop intriguing hints and anecdotes, leaving them eager to know more. For example: “Ever been lost in a city maze? I stumbled upon an underground jazz club last week—a secret from another room….” Don’t be afraid of revealing something you might think is mundane. You can literally turn any event into something interesting: “Just yesterday I was cooking this mean spaghetti, but I ran out of tomato sauce and resorted to using ketchup packets instead! I was terrified of how it’d turn out.”
• Stir emotions: Stir the pot of emotions with questions that evoke laughter or empathy by exploring their highs and lows, their fears and triumphs, and watch as the conversation takes on a life of its own. Try “What’s the funniest thing that’s ever happened to you?” or “When was the last time you felt truly inspired?”
• Probe with purpose: Challenge assumptions and explore new perspectives. Ask “What’s something you’ve always wanted to try but haven’t yet?” to spark thought-provoking discussions.
• Respect boundaries: Be mindful of sensitive topics and avoid prying into personal matters. If you sense discomfort or a topic seems off-limits, gracefully steer the conversation toward neutral ground, to ensure a pleasant exchange for all involved.

Show, Don’t Just Tell

Why is storytelling such an important tool used by many interesting people? Because by doing this, you are not just conveying information, you are:

• rafting an experience
• painting vivid landscapes in the minds of your listeners
• stirring emotions that linger long after the tale is told

Some people aren’t drawn to mere facts; they crave stories.

And to become more interesting conversationalists, it’s important to recognize the types of stories or topics that can either dull or excite the interactions.

Here some stories (or topics) to tell and to avoid:

Action Step: Go through the table above and pick out 2-3 topics. Brainstorm ideas for each topic and pick your favorite, writing out stories to tell at your next convo! You’ve got this.

Elevate Your Style Game

Ever wondered what makes captivating individuals stand out? I’m not just talking about charm here, I am talking about a unique fashion sense and personal flair.

Bold choices breed interesting and unforgettable looks.

Prepare to elevate your style game with these 5 tips, one daring choice at a time.

Now, let’s refine your style:

1. Decode your personal style

• Discover garments that resonate with your confidence and comfort.
• Explore a variety of styles, colors, and patterns to find your perfect fashion match.

Pro Tip: If you’re unsure about your style, start by creating a mood board (source) with images of outfits that catch your eye. Notice any recurring themes or elements that you’re drawn to, whether it’s minimalism, bohemian, or classic elegance.

2. Invest wisely in quality (not necessarily expensive) pieces

• Focus on timeless pieces that promise longevity and versatility.
• Swap out fleeting fashion trends for enduring classics. For example, a meticulously crafted, tailored blazer that will elevate your style game for years on end.

3. Dare to Mix & Match:

• Get adventurous with your wardrobe by mixing textures, patterns, and styles to craft one-of-a-kind looks.
• Try pairing a floral blouse with a striped skirt for a playful yet refined vibe.
• Want to add depth? Layer a denim jacket over a dress or shirt for added dimension and style.

For more clothing tips, read this: 25 Best Clothing Hacks On The Internet (Tested!)

4. Curate thoughtful accessories:

• Add a dash of flair to your outfits with carefully chosen accessories that scream your style. Whether it’s bold statement pieces or classic watches (or bracelets), let your accessories do the talking and spin tales of your personality
• Transform a simple black shirt into a showstopper with bold earrings or a vibrant scarf.
• Wear a conversation starter – Charlie Chaplin had a bowler hat and a moustache, Elton John has his amazing suits. What could you wear as an interesting conversation starter?

5. Radiate confidence

• Rock your unique style with unshakable confidence, radiating charisma with every step.
• Stand tall, make eye contact, and carry yourself with assurance, regardless of what you’re wearing.

Watch as your personal style transforms into something captivating and dynamic, reflecting your essence and always evolving to be interesting.

Be Enthusiastic About The Absent

What else should you talk about when you’re tired of talking about yourself or the other person? What about our wonderful friends, absent or not?

I love to use this conversation trick when things get stale. For example, I met someone at a networking event who was into computers and coding. I’m not a huge coding expert, but I know friends who are! I brought up my friend, Chris, who loves developing websites and has worked with big companies like Motley Fool and Google. The tone of the conversation instantly shifted from me being uninterested in the conversation to both of us having interest—all because of my friend!

So here’s a run-down: let’s take charge of the conversation by:

• Highlighting friends’ achievements in conversations with authentic enthusiasm. What cool things are they doing or have done, even if you aren’t?
• Bringing attention to their unique talents whenever relevant. What are they good at? And what is your convo partner interested in? Celebrate their talents and goodness!
• Publicly acknowledging their positive impact on your life. We all have people that have made a difference in our lives—even if it’s from waaaay back, like a school teacher.

Become a Master of Random Facts

Ever been at a party where someone drops a mind-blowing fact that leaves everyone in awe? That could be you! Becoming a repository of fascinating tidbits is a surefire way to spice up any conversation.

Here’s how to build your arsenal of random knowledge:

• Subscribe to fact-of-the-day emails or apps
• Read unusual non-fiction books (like Salt: A World History or The Secret Life of Lobsters) and general interest magazines like The Atlantic.
• Watch documentaries on obscure topics
• Follow interesting science and history accounts on social media

Pro tip: Don’t just memorize facts; understand the context. It’s one thing to know that a group of flamingos is called a “flamboyance,” but understanding why and how they got such a fabulous collective noun can really make you stand out.

Oh, and this might be common sense, but it bears pointing out: don’t just drop them into conversations randomly to fill a silence. Make sure they’re relevant!

Find Your Signature Scent

According to research (source), smell is the sense most closely linked to memory. By developing a signature scent, you’re creating a lasting, multi-sensory impression that people will associate with you long after you’ve left the room.

Here’s how to find your perfect scent:

1. Explore different fragrance families (floral, woody, oriental, fresh)
2. Consider your personality and the image you want to project
3. Test scents on your skin, not just on paper strips
4. Give each fragrance time to develop throughout the day
5. Ask for honest opinions from friends and family

Your signature scent should be noticeable but not overpowering. You want to intrigue, not to asphyxiate!

Give Out Unexpected Compliments

Forget run-of-the-mill compliments about appearances. Interesting people know how to give unique, thoughtful compliments that catch people off guard (in a good way!).

Here are some examples of generic compliments (avoid them) versus thoughtful, personalized compliments:

Looking for more advice and examples on delivering compliments? Check out this article: 150 Best Positive Compliments For Praising Someone Anywhere

Practice the “Yes, And…” Technique to Sharpen Your Conversational Skills

We’ve all experienced the dreaded awkward silence when a conversation reaches a lull.

What if I told you there was a way to actually practice making sure that never happens again?

Yep, becoming a great conversationalist is a skill you can hone just like any other. And one of the best techniques you can work on is the “Yes, And…” technique. Borrowed from the world of improv comedy, the “Yes, And…” approach can make you a more engaging conversationalist and a more interesting person overall.

Here’s how it works:

1. Accept what others say or suggest (“Yes…”)
2. Build upon it with your own ideas (”…And”)

For example:

• Friend: “I’m thinking of taking up knitting.”
• You: “Yes, and you could knit sweaters for penguins! Did you know there’s actually a charity that does that?”

(Assuming, of course, that your friend has some kind of inclination towards penguins. This is a recurring theme at this point, but remember to personalize all of these tips based on who you’re talking to!)

This approach keeps conversations flowing, encourages creativity, and shows that you’re open-minded and engaged.

Check out this demonstration of comedians practicing the “Yes, And…” technique to sharpen their improvisational skills (if you’re really dedicated, you could even try this out with your friends!):

Learn a New Language (Or Instrument, or Art Hobby)

If you spend any time on YouTube or social media, chances are you’ve stumbled upon videos or reels from a sphere of creators I like to call “Polyglot Tube.”

Polyglot Tubers are people who speak a second language (and often a third or fourth or fifth) fluently.

Their most viral videos and reels? Invariably, the ones where they shock native speakers with their foreign language skills.

Here’s an example:

Notice how these strangers’ entire demeanours change when he starts speaking to them in their native language?

There’s a famous quote from Nelson Mandela that speaks to this: “If you talk to a man in a language he understands, that goes to his head. If you talk to him in his own language, that goes to his heart.”

If you want to truly connect with someone (not to mention gain their respect), learning their native language might be the single best thing to do!

But even if you don’t consistently find opportunities to communicate with native speakers of your foreign language of choice, learning a new language will still make you an incredibly interesting person in general. Here’s why:

• It rewires your brain, enhancing cognitive flexibility and creativity
• It opens doors to new cultures, literature, and ways of thinking
• It provides endless conversation material (and impresses people, let’s be honest)
• It challenges you and shows dedication—qualities interesting people possess in spades

Ready to dive in? Here’s how to make your language-learning journey fascinating:

1. Choose a language that intrigues you, not just the “useful” ones. Learning Icelandic or Swahili can be just as rewarding as Spanish or Mandarin.

2. Use immersive techniques: Change your phone’s language settings, watch foreign films without subtitles, or label everything in your house with Post-its in your target language.

3. Find a language exchange partner and practice regularly. Bonus: You might make an interesting new friend!

4. Explore the culture along with the language. Cook traditional dishes, celebrate holidays, or dive into the country’s history and customs.

5. Set quirky goals: Learn all the idioms about animals, master curse words (but use them wisely!), or become fluent in compliments.

Pro tip: It doesn’t have to be just languages. Music, art, sports, and DIY crafts are all examples of hobbies and interests that can speak to people deeply.

Become a Connector of People

Interesting people often act as social catalysts, bringing together individuals who might benefit from knowing each other.

Doing this will make you super valuable in social circles while exposing you to a wider range of perspectives and experiences!

Here’s how to become a master connector:

• Leverage social media to connect people digitally. Are you a mutual friend of two people who don’t know each other but share similar interests? Create a group chat with the three of you and introduce them!
• At a networking event, get to know people and their interests. Then create a mental network of people with similar interests or goals and introduce them.
• Host social gatherings or events specifically geared towards certain interests and invite people who share them.
  • For example, you could host a book club, a cooking night or a day out at a beach with a volleyball court!

Remember: Quality over quantity. Make thoughtful connections that truly add value to both parties.

Engage in Volunteer Work

Getting involved in community service or charitable activities is a great way to enrich your life and the lives of others.

It helps provide a sense of purpose and opens the door to meaningful connections with like-minded individuals. Here’s how to make the most of your volunteer experiences:

• Choose Causes That Resonate with You: Reflect on what issues matter most to you—whether it’s animal welfare, education, environmental conservation, or helping the homeless. Research local organizations that align with your values and passions.
• Commit to Regular Involvement: Instead of one-off events, aim for consistent participation. Whether it’s weekly, monthly, or quarterly, having a regular commitment allows you to build deeper relationships with fellow volunteers and the community you’re serving. For example, consider tutoring students once a week or helping at a local food bank every month.
• Reflect On and Share Your Experiences: After volunteering, take time to reflect on your experiences. Keep a journal where you jot down memorable moments, challenges faced, and lessons learned. Sharing these reflections with friends or family can spark interesting conversations and inspire others to get involved.
• Explore Leadership Opportunities: As you become more involved, consider taking on leadership roles within the organization. This could be anything from organizing events to leading a team of volunteers. This will enhance your skills and also positions you as a connector within your community!

Become a Story Collector

We all know that people who can tell stories are interesting.

But what good is being a great storyteller if you don’t have any material?

To make sure you always have a tale to tell, make an effort to actively collect stories from your day-to-day life and others’:

• Keep a journal of funny, weird, or touching moments from your day
  • Focus on funny incidents, unexpected encounters, or touching interactions. Use prompts like “What made me laugh today?” or “What surprised me?” to spark ideas.
• Ask older relatives about their lives and experiences
  • Your family members are a treasure trove of stories. Prepare specific questions, such as “What was your most memorable childhood experience?” or “What challenges did you face when you were my age?” Record their stories or take notes to revisit later.
• Travel with the intention of gathering tales, not just seeing sights
  • Keep a small notebook handy to jot down interesting conversations, unique experiences, or local customs you encounter. For example, if you meet a local artist, ask them about their creative process and share their story in your journal.
• Strike up conversations with people from different walks of life
  • Ask open-ended questions like “What’s the most interesting thing you’ve learned in your job?” or “What’s a unique tradition in your culture?” This not only enriches your story collection but also broadens your perspective.

The most captivating stories often come from everyday moments, not just grand adventures. Keep that in mind, and you’ll always be ready to add to your story repository.

Become a Creative Problem Solver

People are drawn to problem-solvers and innovators. There’s a reason people like Mark Zuckerberg and Elon Musk are so highly-regarded in today’s society.

I’m not saying you need to build a revolutionary tech company to be interesting, but sharing stories about creative ways you tackled problems can definitely help you captivate people at a party.

Here’s how to level up your problem-solving game:

1. Embrace a Problem-Solving Mindset: Train your brain to see challenges as exciting puzzles rather than daunting obstacles.

2. Practice the “5 Whys” Technique: Don’t just scratch the surface. Dig deep by asking “why” five times to get to the root of any issue. It’s like being a detective in your own life story!

3. Try “Reverse Brainstorming”: Instead of asking “How do I solve this?”, ask “How could I make this problem worse?” It’s counterintuitive, but it can lead to brilliant solutions.

4. Develop a Personal Problem-Solving Ritual: Whether it’s taking a walk in nature, using a specific notebook, or wearing your “thinking hat” (literally!), create a ritual that signals to your brain it’s time to get creative.

Share your unique approach with others when appropriate—it might just spark some fascinating discussions and inspire people.

Have Contrarian (But Well-Reasoned) Opinions

Interesting people aren’t afraid to go against the grain, but they do so thoughtfully. Develop some well-reasoned contrarian views on non-controversial topics.

For example:

• Argue that breakfast isn’t the most important meal of the day
• Make a case for why a less popular movie is better than a classic
• Defend the use of Comic Sans in certain contexts

Contrarian opinions are a fun way to spark engaging conversations, but make sure you’re not straying into conspiratorial or controversial political topics! Sometimes, there’s a thin line between “interesting person with fun takes” and “wacky conspiracy theorist.”

Remember: Be respectful and open to debate. Your goal is to stimulate thought-provoking discussions, not to be argumentative.

Create Instead of Just Consume

Most people these days don’t do much outside of working and consuming content and media.

If you’re on a date and all you can talk about are the things you like (for example, your favorite movies, books, artists, etc.) rather than the things you do, you’ll come across as uninteresting at best.

Stand out and make yourself interesting by being a creator, not just a consumer.

Here are some cool things you can get into:

• Start a YouTube channel or blog about a hobby or passion
• Learn to program: have fun with little coding projects (source) and share them on GitHub
• Learn knitting, crocheting, woodworking or any other hands-on craft
• Create music or art
• Start a small herb garden

The best part about creating is that most (if not all) of these endeavors are monetizable. Not only will you become a more interesting person, you also might end up making a bit of extra cash on the side!

Pro Tip: Go on a digital detox. This will help your creative brain come alive and allow you some well-deserved rest as well!

Develop a Unique Morning Routine

From Andrew Huberman (source) to Tim Ferris (source) and beyond, you’d be hard-pressed to find a productivity and self-improvement guru who doesn’t emphasize the importance of a good morning routine.

By nailing down a consistent morning schedule, you can energize yourself, spark creativity, and set the tone for a productive day. Oh, and it’ll also give you plenty to talk about at parties.

Here’s a sample routine to inspire you:

• Drink a glass of water
• Wake up with a cold shower
• Practice 10 minutes of mindfulness meditation
• Write three pages of stream-of-consciousness thoughts

The specifics matter less than the consistency and the way it makes you feel. Play around with different things and find what works for you.

More advice on establishing a morning routine can be found here: Morning Routine Mastery: 30 Key Habits For Success

Embrace Calculated Risks

The most captivating individuals often share a common trait: they’re risk-takers.

These are the people at parties who just seem to have an endless supply of fascinating stories and experiences as a result of smart, calculated risks.

But beyond being the life of the party, here’s how embracing calculated risks can benefit you:

• Boost Confidence: Each risk you take and overcome builds your self-assurance.
• Accelerate Personal Growth: Stepping out of your comfort zone is where the magic happens.
• Increase Resilience: Learning to handle uncertainty makes you more adaptable.
• Enhance Problem-Solving Skills: New challenges force you to think creatively.

Here’s how to start taking calculated risks:

1. Start Small:

   • Try a bold new hairstyle or wear an outfit that pushes your style boundaries.
   • Order the most unusual dish on the menu at your favorite restaurant.
   • Strike up a conversation with a stranger (in a safe, public setting).

2. Level Up:

   • Sign up for an open mic night or join a local sports league.
   • Take a class in something you’ve always wanted to try but found intimidating.
   • Apply for a job or project that feels slightly out of your reach.

3. Go Bigger:

   • Plan a solo trip to a destination you’ve always dreamed of visiting.
   • Start a side business or passion project.
   • Make a major career change or relocate to a new city.

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10 Most Effective Traits of Interesting Individuals

Imagine being in a room buzzing with excitement, where every word spoken feels like a spark of curiosity and inspiration. In this lively setting, there’s no room for dull small talk or boring topics.

Exploring what makes individuals interesting, let’s delve into the 10 traits of interesting individuals:

1. Curiosity: By delving into new experiences and knowledge from diverse sources, you not only feed your own curiosity but also enrich your conversations with depth and intrigue.
2. Passion: Pursuing your passions wholeheartedly allows you to share what truly sets your soul on fire to captivate those around you.
3. Authenticity: Showcasing your unique self, quirks, and imperfections sets you apart from the crowd, making you intriguing and relatable.
4. Storytelling: Filling your narratives with passion and creativity makes your stories compelling and memorable, leaving a lasting impression on those you interact with.
5. Empathy: Practicing active listening and offering support raises real connections and creates inclusive environments where everyone feels valued and understood.
6. Versatility: Embracing curiosity and digging new interests keeps conversations dynamic and engaging across a wide range of topics
7. Confidence: By celebrating your achievements, setting ambitious goals, and confronting challenges head-on, you radiate confidence, drawing attention and becoming a magnetic presence in any setting.
8. Humor: Finding and making a good humor in everyday situations adds charm and light-heartedness, keeping interactions enjoyable and memorable.
9. Open-mindedness: Engaging with different perspectives and daring to question your own beliefs sparks intellectual growth and enriches conversations with fresh insights and ideas.
10. Growth: By setting bold goals and actively seeking new experiences, you ensure a continuous journey of growth and captivate others with your ever-expanding horizons.

Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs) on Becoming More Interesting

Why should I bother becoming more interesting?

Becoming more interesting can make your life more fulfilling and enjoyable. It can help you make deeper connections with others, stand out in social situations, and lead a more engaging life overall. Interesting people also get invited to do more interesting things. If you feel stuck, bored or underestimated, becoming interesting is worth the time.

How can I overcome the fear of not being interesting?

The biggest barrier to being more interesting is fear. Overcome it by acknowledging your unique qualities and embracing them. Don’t worry about people judging you. Remember, everyone has fascinating ideas and experiences to share.

What are some common traits of uninteresting people?

Uninteresting people often stick to routine activities, ask boring questions, consume uninspiring content, and avoid trying new things. They may also lack curiosity and expect others to entertain them.

How can I have more engaging conversations?

Engaging conversations stem from asking thought-provoking questions, sharing personal stories, and showing genuine interest in others’ experiences. Avoid mundane topics like work or the weather, and focus on discussing passions, adventures, and meaningful topics.

What are some tips for improving my personal style?

Elevate your style game by discovering your personal fashion preferences, investing in quality clothing, experimenting with mixing and matching outfits, and adding thoughtful accessories. Confidence is key—own your style choices with pride.

How can I maintain interesting conversations and avoid dull topics?

Keep conversations lively by discussing topics like travel adventures, inspiring achievements, humorous anecdotes, philosophical questions, and cultural traditions. Avoid mundane topics like work, debt, weight, and celebrity gossip.

How can I cultivate traits that make me more interesting?

You can cultivate traits like curiosity, passion, authenticity, empathy, versatility, confidence, humor, open-mindedness, and a commitment to personal growth. Embrace new experiences, challenge yourself, and be open to learning from others.

How can I become a better conversationalist overall?

To become a better conversationalist, practice active listening, ask open-ended questions, share personal experiences, show empathy, and stay engaged in the discussion. Keep conversations stimulating and enjoyable for everyone involved.

Key Takeaways on How to Be Interesting

Now that you’re armed with the secrets to becoming more interesting individuals, let’s extract the key takeaways that’ll have you waltzing through social scenes like a pro!

Here’s a quick rundown:

• Dive into adventures: Break out of your comfort zone and dive headfirst into thrilling escapades. Whether it’s trying exotic dishes or mastering quirky skills, keep life spicy with bold new experiences.
• Stoke curiosity flames: Keep conversations crackling with energy by asking mind-bending questions that unveil fascinating insights. Let your curiosity be the spice that flavors every chat.
• Broaden your mental horizon: Treat your mind to a dinner of knowledge, from ancient history to futuristic tech. Let the feast of learning fuel your intellect and keep your mind stimulated
• Spin spellbinding stories: Become the ultimate storyteller, weaving tales that transport listeners to far-off lands. Share your adventures with passion and flair, leaving them hungry for more.
• Embrace your unique flair: Embrace your quirks and passions, and let your unique personality shine like a disco ball. Be the glitter in the room that catches everyone’s eye.
• Spread cheer and support: Be a relentless cheerleader for those around you, celebrating their victories and lifting their spirits with boundless enthusiasm. Spread joy and positivity wherever you go, leaving a trail of smiles in your wake.
• Deep dive conversations: Skip the small talk and dive into the deep end of meaningful discussions that inspire reflection. Explore profound topics that don’t just spark curiosity, but leave them with “woah!”
• Banish boring conversations: Kick dull topics to the curb and keep the party pumping with lively discussions. Leave gossip and negativity at the door, and watch the fun unfold!

Always remember, the journey to becoming more interesting is an ongoing adventure. Let your curiosity guide you, and watch as your life becomes a story worth telling!

Even doing ONEone of the interesting things in this blog post will help you be more interesting.

Being interesting is about living a life that’s worth talking about.

Bottom Line: If you want to be interesting, put some work into it! Remember, laziness is the enemy of interesting.

You already are interesting! Now go show it!

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