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Rejecting a job offer is difficult. Learn how to decline the offer graciously or make a counteroffer without burning bridges. Bonus tips on understanding what brings you work satisfaction.
Imagine nailing those interviews, heart pounding as the offer email arrives—only to realize it’s not the fit you hoped for. Now what? Don’t panic; with the right words, you can decline a job offer gracefully and leave them wanting you for next time.
After the sleepless nights and nerve-wracking interview process, getting a job offer feels exhilarating! But when the offer comes in and it’s underwhelming—whether it’s the salary, the role, or just a gut feeling that it’s not right—you face a new challenge: how to decline a job offer without burning bridges.
If you’re reading this, you’ve probably already decided to turn down the offer or counter it. Good news: you’re about to learn the most professional way to decline a job offer while keeping future doors wide open.
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Let’s dive into proven strategies, email templates, and phone scripts that keep you in good standing with every hiring manager.
Reply Fast and With Heart: The Polite Way to Start
Timing matters when you decline a job offer. The company has invested significant time and resources: they posted the job, reviewed applicants, ran interviews, picked finalists, and built a pay package. Don’t make the hiring manager wait unnecessarily.
Here’s your framework for responding promptly and politely:
1. Respond within 24-48 hours. According to a 2023 NACE study (source), 69% of job offers made to 2023 college graduates were accepted, meaning 31% were declined. Quick responses help companies move forward with other candidates.
2. Acknowledge the specific offer. Always mention the exact job title and company name in your response. This shows you’ve given their offer careful consideration.
3. Express genuine gratitude. Thank the hiring manager by name for their time during the interview process. If you went through multiple rounds, acknowledge that specifically.
4. Politely decline using professional language. Phrases like “after careful consideration,” “difficult decision,” or “I’ve decided to pursue another direction” work beautifully.
5. Keep future opportunities open. Depending on your relationship with the hiring manager, mention staying connected through LinkedIn or professional organizations.
6. End on a positive note. Include something specific you appreciated about the company or learned during your conversations. Leave them with warm feelings about you—you never know when your paths will cross again.
Phone Call Script: Deliver Your ‘No’ With Warm Confidence
If you’ve built a personal connection with the hiring manager during the interview process, a phone call can be the most professional way to decline a job offer. Face-to-face contact (or voice-to-voice) fosters rapport—research shows (source) it improves negotiating outcomes and maintains stronger relationships.
When to Call Instead of Email
- You’ve had multiple conversations with the hiring manager
- The role was senior-level or highly specialized
- You genuinely want to stay connected for future opportunities
- The company culture felt warm and personal
Phone Script Template
Here’s a sample script to keep you in excellent standing:
Hello, [hiring manager’s name].
[Insert warm greeting based on your last conversation]
I wanted to follow up on your offer for the [job title] position. I truly appreciate the opportunity you’ve offered me and the time you invested in the interview process.
After careful consideration, I’ve concluded that it’s best for me to [move in another direction / stay in my current position / accept another offer]. [Insert brief, honest reason if comfortable—such as “the role doesn’t quite align with my career goals in [specific field]” or “I’ve accepted a position that’s a better fit for my current family situation.”]
I was genuinely impressed by [specific aspect of company/team], and I hope we can stay connected through LinkedIn. I’d love to keep the door open for future opportunities.
Thank you again for your time and consideration.
As productivity expert Chris Bailey explained when declining two excellent job offers after graduation: “both would give me a good amount of pleasure and engagement but what they wouldn’t give me is meaning.” Being honest about your reasons—when appropriate—builds respect.
Pro tip: If you can’t reach the hiring manager by phone, send a brief email requesting a quick call, then follow up with the written decline if they’re unavailable.
Ready-to-Use Email Templates: Decline Like a Total Pro
Whether you can’t connect by phone or prefer written communication, email is perfectly acceptable for declining a job offer. Here are templates for the most common scenarios—each includes the company name, job title, and hiring manager’s name for personalization.
Template #1: Declining to Pursue a Different Field
Subject line: Job offer – [Your name] [Job title]
Dear [hiring manager’s name],
Thank you for offering me the [job title] role at [company name]. It was a pleasure to meet you and discuss a future with your team during the interview process.
After much consideration, I’ve decided to decline the offer to pursue a position in [different field]. While [company name] is doing incredible work in [their field], I’ve realized my passion and career goals align more closely with [your target field].
I genuinely appreciated learning about [specific aspect you enjoyed], and I hope we can stay connected for future opportunities.
Thank you again for your time and consideration.
Sincerely,
[Your name]
Template #2: Accepting a Better-Aligned Position
Subject line: Job offer – [Your name] [Job title]
Dear [hiring manager’s name],
Thank you for your time and the generous offer for the [job title] position at [company name]. After careful consideration, I’ve decided to accept a different position that aligns more closely with my interest in [specific area/field].
On a personal note, I was truly impressed by [specific aspect—such as the company culture, team dynamics, or innovation projects you discussed]. Your insights about [specific topic] during our interview were incredibly valuable.
I hope we can stay connected through LinkedIn, and I wish [company name] continued success.
Best regards,
[Your name]
Template #3: Staying in Your Current Position
Subject line: Job offer – [Your name] [Job title]
Dear [hiring manager’s name],
Thank you for the generous offer for the [job title] position at [company name]. After much deliberation, I’ve decided to remain with my current employer.
Family health issues make this the wrong time for me to switch organizations. However, I would love to stay in touch about future opportunities at [company name].
I remember you mentioned looking for an outstanding [related role] during our conversation. I’d like to connect you with one of my colleagues through LinkedIn who might be a perfect fit for your team.
Again, thank you for the opportunity to interview. I sincerely appreciate your time.
Best regards,
[Your name]
Template #4: Need More Time to Decide
If you’re considering multiple offers or need time to think, buy yourself space with a quick acknowledgment:
Subject line: Job offer – [Your name] [Job title]
Dear [hiring manager’s name],
Thank you so much for the generous offer for the [job title] position at [company name]. I am carefully reviewing the offer and will respond to you by the end of the day on [specific day and date]. Your patience is greatly appreciated.
Please reach out if you have any questions in the interim.
Kind regards,
[Your name]
How to Decline a Job Offer After You’ve Already Accepted
This is the trickiest scenario—but it happens more than you think. Maybe you received a dream offer after accepting, discovered concerning information about the company, or experienced a major life change. Whatever the reason, you need to handle this with extra care.
Why This Happens (And Why It’s Okay)
Life circumstances change. According to Pew Research data (source), low pay, no opportunities for advancement, and feeling disrespected at work were the top reasons U.S. workers voluntarily quit jobs in 2021. Sometimes you don’t discover these red flags until after accepting.
As award-winning journalist Celeste Headlee wisely advises: “don’t burn down the house you’re living in until you have somewhere else to go.” But if you’ve genuinely found somewhere better or discovered the accepted position isn’t right, here’s how to handle it.
The Professional Way to Withdraw After Acceptance
1. Act immediately. The moment you’re certain, reach out. Every day you wait makes it harder for the company.
2. Call first, then follow up in writing. This warrants a phone conversation with the hiring manager, followed by a formal email.
3. Be direct and apologetic. Don’t over-explain, but acknowledge the inconvenience.
4. Offer to help with the transition. If you can connect them with other qualified candidates, do so.
Phone Script for Post-Acceptance Decline
Hello [hiring manager’s name],
I need to have a difficult conversation with you. I know I previously accepted the [job title] position at [company name], and I sincerely apologize, but I need to withdraw my acceptance.
[Brief, honest reason: “I’ve received an unexpected opportunity that aligns with my long-term career goals” or “My family circumstances have changed significantly” or “I’ve learned information that makes me believe this isn’t the right fit.”]
I understand this creates challenges for you and the team, and I’m truly sorry for any inconvenience. If there’s anything I can do to help with your search—such as referring qualified candidates—please let me know.
I have enormous respect for [company name] and wish you all the best.
Email Template for Post-Acceptance Decline
Subject line: Withdrawal of acceptance – [Job title] – [Your name]
Dear [hiring manager’s name],
I am writing to formally withdraw my acceptance of the [job title] position at [company name], with a start date of [original start date].
I understand this decision creates significant inconvenience, and I sincerely apologize. [Brief reason: “After much reflection, I’ve decided to pursue an opportunity that better aligns with my long-term career goals in [field]” or “Due to unexpected family circumstances, I’m unable to make this transition at this time.”]
I have tremendous respect for [company name] and the work you’re doing in [their field]. This was an incredibly difficult decision, and I’m grateful for the opportunity you extended to me.
If I can assist in any way—including referring qualified candidates—please don’t hesitate to reach out.
With sincere apologies and best wishes,
[Your name]
Critical note: Some states and employment contracts have specific terms about rescinding acceptance. Review any paperwork you signed before withdrawing.
Declining a Job Offer Due to Low Salary (With Examples)
Money matters. According to Federal Reserve data (source), job changers (switchers) experienced 7.7% median pay growth in June 2024, compared to 4.9% for job stayers. When a salary offer falls short, you have three options: decline, negotiate, or counter.
How to Know When Salary Is the Issue
Before declining solely based on salary, ask yourself:
- Is the base salary the only concern, or are benefits/equity/bonuses inadequate too?
- Does the total compensation package (including work-life balance, growth opportunities, remote work) make up for lower pay?
- Have you researched the market rate for this job title in this location?
- Is there room to negotiate, or did they present it as their “best and final” offer?
Victoria Medvec, Professor at Northwestern’s Kellogg School of Management, notes: “Knowledge is power, and you now have an advantage in negotiations because of pay transparency laws.” Use this to your advantage.
Email Template: Declining Due to Salary
Subject line: Job offer – [Your name] [Job title]
Dear [hiring manager’s name],
Thank you for offering me the [job title] position at [company name]. I was genuinely excited about the opportunity to work with your team on [specific project/goal].
After carefully reviewing the compensation package, I’ve made the difficult decision to decline. The salary offered is below the market rate for this role in [location/industry], and it doesn’t align with my current financial requirements.
I have tremendous respect for [company name]‘s mission in [their field], and I hope we can stay connected for future opportunities where the compensation might be a better fit.
Thank you again for your time and consideration during the interview process.
Best regards,
[Your name]
Alternative: Open the Door to Salary Negotiation
If you’re open to negotiating rather than declining outright, try this:
Dear [hiring manager’s name],
Thank you for the offer for the [job title] position at [company name]. I’m very interested in joining your team.
Based on my research of market rates for this role and my [X years of experience/specific expertise], I was expecting a salary in the range of $[X-Y]. The current offer of $[offered amount] is lower than I anticipated.
Would you be open to discussing the compensation package? I’d love to find a way to make this work for both of us.
I look forward to hearing from you.
Best regards,
[Your name]
Common Mistakes to Avoid (Ghosting vs. Declining)
Ghosting a job offer—simply disappearing without responding—might seem easier in the moment, but it’s a career mistake that can haunt you. Let’s talk about what NOT to do and why it matters.
The Cost of Ghosting
Industries are smaller than you think. That hiring manager you ghosted might:
- Become a decision-maker at your dream company later
- Sit on a conference panel you’re speaking at
- Network with your future boss
- Remember your name when it crosses their desk again
According to the 2021 Bureau of Labor Statistics data (source), a record 47.8 million U.S. workers voluntarily quit their jobs during the Great Resignation, creating a job market where both candidates and employers are more selective. This volatility makes professional courtesy even more critical.
Mistakes to Avoid
❌ Ghosting entirely. Never acceptable, ever. Even if the interview process was terrible, send a brief, professional decline.
❌ Being overly detailed about your reasons. You don’t owe them your life story. “I’ve decided to pursue another direction” is sufficient.
❌ Criticizing the company or team. Even if you discovered red flags, keep it professional. “The role isn’t quite the right fit for my goals” works fine.
❌ Declining before you have another offer in hand. Unless there are serious ethical concerns, don’t decline until you’ve signed elsewhere. As Celeste Headlee advises, don’t burn down your current house until you have somewhere else to go.
❌ Negotiating if you’re not genuinely interested. Don’t waste their time with a counteroffer if you’ve already decided to decline. Be honest.
❌ Waiting too long to respond. Every day you delay is a day they can’t move forward with their second choice.
✅ DO: Keep it brief, grateful, and professional. That’s it.
From ‘No Thanks’ to ‘How About…?’: Crafting Your Counter
Good news: you have more negotiating power than you think. The same Pew Research study (source) found that roughly six in ten U.S. workers who changed employers since the pandemic began are earning more money in their new job.
If the job is right but the offer needs work, counteroffering is your move. Here’s how to do it effectively.
When to Counter vs. When to Decline
Counter if:
- You’re genuinely excited about the role and company
- Only one or two elements of the offer are problematic (usually salary or start date)
- You’ve done market research and can justify your request
- The hiring manager has indicated flexibility
Decline if:
- Multiple aspects of the offer are problematic
- Your gut tells you it’s not right, regardless of compensation
- The company presented their offer as “best and final”
- You’ve already accepted another position
Email Template for Making a Counteroffer
Subject line: [Job title] offer – [Your name]
Dear [hiring manager’s name],
Thank you for the generous offer for the [job title] position at [company name]. I’m genuinely excited about the possibility of joining your team and contributing to [specific project/goal].
After reviewing the offer carefully, I’d love to discuss a few aspects to ensure this is the best fit for both of us:
[Be specific: “Based on market research for this role in [location] and my [X years of experience in specific area], I was expecting a salary in the $[X-Y] range rather than the offered $[Z].”
OR: “Given my current obligations, would it be possible to negotiate [remote work flexibility/different start date/additional PTO]?”]
I’m confident we can find a solution that works for everyone. Would you be available for a brief call this week to discuss?
Thank you again for this opportunity. I’m looking forward to our conversation.
Best regards,
[Your name]
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5 Smart Negotiation Moves to Boost Any Job Offer
Once you’ve sent your counteroffer email, prepare for the conversation. These science-backed negotiation strategies can significantly improve your outcomes.
1. Acknowledge the Offer First
Always start by thanking the hiring manager and expressing enthusiasm for the role. Mention specific aspects of the company culture, compensation package, or future opportunities that attracted you. As Harvard Business School Professor Deepak Malhotra advises: “Negotiate as if you already have the offer—but not as if you are certain to get it.”
2. Show Appreciation and Enthusiasm
Make it clear you want this to work. Try mentioning why the opportunity excites you—whether it’s the company’s mission, the team dynamics you observed during the interview process, or growth opportunities in your field.
3. Express Your Intent to Find a Win-Win
Frame your counteroffer as a collaborative problem: “I’d love to find a way to make this work for both of us” positions you as a team player, not an adversary.
4. Request an In-Person Meeting
If possible, negotiate face-to-face. Research demonstrates that face-to-face contact fosters rapport and improves negotiating outcomes. At minimum, request a video call rather than handling everything by email.
5. Use Strategic Body Language and Timing
Sit at an angle: Rather than sitting directly across from your negotiating partner, position yourself at a slight angle. This appears less confrontational and more collaborative—you’re on the same team working toward a solution.
Meet over lunch if possible: Stanford researchers Margaret Neale and Peter Belmi found that sharing food helps create more valuable deals in competitive negotiations. Breaking bread together literally softens the negotiation atmosphere.
Time your ask strategically: Don’t wait weeks to counter, but also don’t fire back immediately. Taking 24-48 hours to “carefully consider” the offer shows you’re thoughtful and serious.
Read more at How to Negotiate: 12 Science-Based Strategies to Win.
Post-Rejection Power-Up: Reflect and Find Your True Path
After declining a job offer, you’ve got a valuable opportunity: clarity. This is your moment to understand what you really want from work.
Best-selling author James Clear talks about moving toward the next right thing instead of away from the last thing:
“If something isn’t going well, then don’t run from it. Find something else to get excited about instead. Spend as much time as possible doing things that pull you in rather than pushing frustration away.”
—James Clear
But Clear also warns: “Many good opportunities are ruined for the dream of slightly better ones.” How do you know you’re making the right call?
Action Step: The Like/Dislike Exercise
Take five minutes right now. Grab a notebook or open a document and create two columns:
What I liked about the offer I just declined:
- Example: The mission of the company aligned with my values
- Example: Flexible work arrangement
- Example: The hiring manager seemed genuinely supportive
- Example: Great benefits package
What I didn’t like about the offer:
- Example: Salary was 15% below market rate
- Example: Job title didn’t reflect the actual responsibilities
- Example: Limited opportunities for advancement
- Example: Company culture felt corporate and rigid
After creating your list, ask yourself:
- Which items do I have control over in future job searches?
- What are my true non-negotiables?
- What patterns do I notice about what pulls me toward or pushes me away from opportunities?
Deeper Dive: Design Your Ideal Work Day
If you have time to dig deeper, consider these questions about your ideal work environment:
- Do you enjoy leading a team or being an individual contributor?
- Do you thrive with data analysis or in creative processes?
- Is flexibility around your work location and schedule essential?
- Do you prefer routine or variety in your daily tasks?
- If you could create a perfect workday, what activities would it involve?
Here’s an example of what a fulfilling workday might look like:
| Ideal Work Day Schedule | |
|---|---|
| 8:30-9:00 | Catch up on emails and review your to-do list |
| 9:00-11:00 | Deep focus work on strategic projects |
| 11:00-11:30 | Team collaboration meeting |
| 11:30-12:30 | Quick wins: knock out easy follow-up tasks |
| 12:30-1:30 | Lunch walk with a colleague OR walk the dog while listening to a podcast |
| 1:30-3:00 | Review projects and tackle associated tasks |
| 3:00-3:30 | Creative brainstorm session OR dance break to recharge |
| 3:30-5:30 | Wrap up emails and prepare tomorrow’s task list |
Mapping this out helps you evaluate whether your next opportunity will actually deliver the day-to-day experience you crave.
For additional action steps and questions to consider, learn about the components of creating a job happiness plan at Be Happy at Work: 10 Science-Backed Ways You Can Be Happier.
Your Graceful Decline Cheat Sheet: Must-Know Wins
You’ve learned how to decline a job offer without burning bridges—now here’s your quick reference guide.
The Three Core Principles
1. Understand Your Why
Honing in on the factors that truly motivate you and bring happiness at work provides clues about whether any offer is genuinely right for you. Don’t decline based on fear or impulse—decline based on clarity about your goals.
2. Always Be Professional
Regardless of which direction you choose, maintain positivity and professionalism. You never know when you’ll cross paths with that hiring manager or company name again. Ensure the lasting impression is at minimum neutral, ideally warm and respectful.
3. Set Yourself Up for Success
If you negotiate for a better offer, use your body language, request an in-person meeting, and bring data to support your position. If you decline, do it promptly with genuine gratitude.
Quick Decision Framework
Decline immediately if:
- ✓ The role fundamentally misaligns with your career goals
- ✓ You’ve accepted another position you’re excited about
- ✓ Red flags emerged that you can’t overlook
- ✓ Your gut strongly says “no”
Consider negotiating if:
- ✓ You’re excited about the company and role
- ✓ Only compensation/start date/specific terms are the issue
- ✓ The hiring manager has indicated flexibility
- ✓ Your research supports your counteroffer requests
Take more time if:
- ✓ You’re waiting to hear from other companies
- ✓ You need to discuss with family/partners
- ✓ You genuinely need to research market rates
- ✓ You’re evaluating multiple offers simultaneously
And when you do find the right position and are ready to resign from your current role, read 18 Professional Email Tips to Craft Your Next Email (With Templates!) and reference the Resigning From a Job Email Template.
