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92 Exciting Ways to Make Friends in Your New City

Science of People Team 53 min read
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Discover 90 unique ways to meet people in any city, from trivia nights to theme parks! Learn why making friends is important and find helpful tips to kickstart your social life.

Do you want to meet new people? Whether you’re in a new city or your hometown looking for a refresh, this guide will give you 90 easy ways to meet people!

Why Is it Hard to Make Friends? (According to Science!)

Once we enter work life, it’s natural to lose touch with most of our friends, especially after relocating. A recent study http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4852646/ by Oxford University suggested that men and women start losing friends after age 25.

Watch our video below to learn how to meet new people!

5 How to Meet People Quick Tips

Wondering how to even begin?

Don’t fret. Here are some quick tips to take with you wherever you go!

  1. Look for the long lines at the grocery store, coffee shop, or elsewhere. Sure, most people despise waiting. But long lines can offer a potential-new-friend opportunity if you allow it.
  2. Go towards people. Normally, you might try to find the emptiest spot in a big cafeteria or at the beach. Not if you’re trying to meet people! Go be next to someone who you think you might be able to talk with. Remember, proximity is key!
  3. Go early, leave late. At a party or networking event, going at these golden times creates opportunity. You might not even have any existing friends to rely on for conversation, so go out and make your new ones!
  4. Graze. Don’t be the one with the full plate of food. Going to the food line multiple times creates new opportunities to meet new people.
  5. Bring the right wing person. The right wing person isn’t someone you always stick with, but someone who gives you enough “meet new people time” or introduces you to new people.

Why You Should Make New Friends

Distance, demanding work hours, and shifting priorities all contribute to a shrinking social life and the solitude that comes with it.

Can you relate?

If you’re more like me, grabbing takeout on your way back from work and tuning into Netflix sounds like a much better plan.

But we need to make friends! Humans are wired to connect with others https://cmha.ca/blogs/the-importance-of-human-connection#:~:text=But%20connecting%20with%20others%20is,put%20our%20health%20at%20risk. to regulate emotions, improve empathy and self-esteem, lessen anxiety and depression, and even live longer https://news.harvard.edu/gazette/story/2017/04/over-nearly-80-years-harvard-study-has-been-showing-how-to-live-a-healthy-and-happy-life/!

Unfortunately, making friends in adulthood is not as easy… especially if you’re looking for a deeper emotional connection than you were back in high school or college.

So here’s another thought to consider:

According to the United Nations https://ourworldindata.org/life-expectancy#:~:text=The%20United%20Nations%20estimate%20a,any%20country%20back%20in%201950., the global average life expectancy is 72.6 years. This means that, on average, if you meet just one new person every day, you’ll meet around 25,000 people in your lifetime!

The opportunities are endless.

Here are a few more interesting statistics:

The State Friendships, According to Science Infographic

The 90 Best Places to Meet People in Any City

Meet new people infographic

Trivia Nights

If you’ve never been to a trivia night before, you’re missing out!

Imagine answering questions related to Harry Potter, Game of Thrones, or your favorite sports team in front of a crowd while enjoying drinks and food.

Chances are, you’ll impress or be impressed by someone and start a conversation!

Action Steps:

Arrive early on the night of the event! This is key to meeting people—do not be late. Make sure to speak to your teammates before and after the game.

On a (Unique) City Tour

If you are new to a city, I recommend going on a few city tours to see if you can meet other newcomers.

If you have been in your city long, try a unique city tour. Check out historical walks, art jaunts, food adventures, architectural explorations, or ghost hunts. Mix it up with something different.

Action Steps:

  • Join online tour groups https://www.worldpackers.com/articles/tips-for-making-friends-while-traveling-alone like SoloTraveller, ShowsAround, or PartyWith, etc., to learn more about the places you’re expected to visit.
  • Minimize the use of electronics. As much as you enjoy music, don’t be glued to your cell phone or walk around with earphones; you might be seen as uninviting. Better yet, why not try a digital detox and eliminate social media altogether?
  • Try searching your town’s name + art tour, ghost tour, food tour, architecture tour, museum tour, food truck tour, and see what comes up!

Language Class

Learning a new language is a great way to learn about a new culture and form new connections.

Many people perceive willingness to learn as a good thing and will be more open to becoming friends. And if you’d like to learn smarter, check out our guide here!

Action Tips:

  • Join a language class! Don’t be afraid to show you’re new by mispronouncing even the basics. People will most likely be very encouraging, as people in a language-learning class are there to learn and get better.
  • Hang out with a couple of students. Grab lunch or try a new hobby together, maybe from the language’s culture.
  • Get a note, buddy. Learn and make friends by exchanging notes in a foreign language.

Film Club

Film clubs offer a haven for cinephiles to indulge their passion for movies, share insights, and create connections with fellow film enthusiasts.

Action Steps:

  • Start with a friendly introduction. A simple “hello” goes a long way in breaking the ice.
  • Spark connections by asking their opinions and having meaningful discussions on the film.
  • Laugh, gasp, or shed a tear—embrace the joy of cinematic expression.

Escape Room

If you haven’t experienced the thrill of an escape room challenge yet, you’re truly missing out on an adventure!

Get locked in a room with your new friends, solving puzzles, decoding clues, and racing against the clock to escape.

Pro Tip: Gather your friends and scout out nearby escape room venues https://worldofescapes.com/countries and book your adventure in advance to secure your spot.

Remember, communication is key—so don’t hesitate to brainstorm and collaborate!

A Bar

As cliché as this might sound, a bar is still among the most popular places to meet new people.

On most nights, bars are crowded with different people who have no problem sharing drinks with strangers. It’s like hiring a new employee, but this time, they’re not coming to you—you’re going to them.

Action Steps:

  • Join a bar crawl https://www.meetup.com/topics/pub-crawls/ near you. You can bring your colleagues from work, or take the solo route if you don’t want to mix business with pleasure.
  • Dress like the person you’re planning to meet. Are you a Ted or a Barney? How you dress says a lot about you, your habits, and your preferences.
  • Make sure your body language says you’re ready to chat. Put away your phone, focus on the conversation, and face the group, not the table.
  • Take a sip and dive into the conversation! “Where’s the best pizza in town?” “Did you watch the game last night?” “What’s your personality type?”

For a list of amazing conversation starters, head on over to our guide: 57 Killer Conversation Starters So You Can Talk to Anyone

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Fitness Club

Joining a fitness club is a great way to get social while staying fit!

Depending on your preferences, you could opt for a gym, yoga classes, martial arts, etc.

Regardless of your choice, you’re bound to meet new people. And if things go well, you might even find a new workout partner who you could be friends with outside the club.

Action Steps:

Survival Course

Venture into the wild to tap into your primal instincts.

Action Tips: Join a wilderness survival course to master exploring wild terrain. Whether you’re a seasoned pro or a newbie, these courses are invaluable. Trek through the terrain, learn survival skills, and bond with fellow adventurers.

Try a wilderness survival course! Check out REI https://www.rei.com/events/a/outdoor-skills-survival or NOLS https://www.nols.edu/en/ for starters.

At a Sports Event or Fan Club

Do you love football, basketball, or baseball?

You’re not alone. You’re bound to find and befriend people who support the same team you do in a new city.

Action Steps:

  • Look for your team’s fan club in your city on the official website or social media pages. Stay connected with others by leaving comments and going to their local meetups!
  • Look for a sports bar showing the game and wear your team’s jersey to it. You’re bound to strike up some interesting conversation.
  • Talk about the game with other fans and celebrate/mourn the results! When you have a common goal and enemy, friends are more easily made.

Religious or Cultural Club

If you like Sunday school or the occasional Bar and Bat Mitzvahs, they are excellent places to meet and befriend new people.

Becoming active in a local place of worship will ensure you engage with like-minded people.

Action Steps:

  • Start visiting a religious center near you regularly and aim for the same spot every time. Eventually, you’ll be recognized or start seeing the same people around you.
  • Smile! Not the fake kind of smile but the real smile that causes your face to have those crow’s feet.
  • Get involved with activities like sporting events, fundraisers, Bible studies, seminars, etc.

Book Club

If you’re a bibliophile like me, a book club is the best place to meet like-minded people in a new city. Start one or join one!

By showing up to a weekly or monthly book club meeting, you can discuss a book with other members and exchange views.

Action Steps:

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The Beach or Lake

Spending time at a beach or lake is not only relaxing and fun but also a great opportunity to make new friends since everyone is generally relaxed.

If you’re new to the area, you could ask for directions, time, a drink, or even some sunscreen!

Pro Tip: Pick a spot on the beach or dock in a crowded area so you can make small talk with people on the towels next to you.

Action Tips:

  • Join a local meetup group at the beach or lake for yoga, jet skiing, or hiking.
  • Become a volunteer to help out with local projects and activities.
  • Make small talk without being creepy.

Music, Food, or Art Festival

Food, music, and art are things people are passionate about on an individual level. Attending festivals is among the best ways to meet people with similar social taste buds.

According to a study that tracked people’s digital footprints, researchers concluded that individuals with similar likes and dislikes attracted each other and were more likely to become friends.

So find your favorite festival, go listen to some tunes, and make friends!

Pro Tip: If you are trying to meet new people, look for long lines. Then try to chat with the people ahead of and behind you!

Action Tips:

  • Introduce yourself to others! It sounds simple, but you’d be surprised at how many awkward introductions people tend to have. Break that awkwardness by learning to master the handshake.
  • Get opinions! How’s the music? Digging this painting? What’s it saying to you? Asking questions is a cool way to connect and hear diverse views.
  • Check Facebook groups for rideshares! Going to the same fest? Perfect chance to bond before the big day.
  • Dance like nobody’s watching! If you’re at a music festival, now’s your chance to go wild. Even if you’re the only one dancing, who knows? You might end up being the life of the festival (skip to 1:13 for the fun part. WARNING: Loud music):
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Local Store

Local stores are often more welcoming than giant retailers like Walmart and Costco.

Go for a stroll down the street and walk into any local store or deli for groceries or a quick bite.

You might even run into your neighbor or others who shop locally!

Action Tips:

  • Use sites like Yelp https://www.yelp.com/, Google Maps https://www.google.com/maps, or TripAdvisor https://www.tripadvisor.com/ to find local businesses near you.
  • Find a moment of laughter. What kind of laughter can you bring to others in the store? For example, imagine if you had headphones on and started singing Christmas tunes in the middle of July. A small dose of laughter can really brighten someone’s day!

Learn to add some humor by reading our article: How to Be Funny: 7 Easy Steps to Improve Your Humor

Graffiti Art Tours

Discovering graffiti hotspots in a new city offers a thrilling path to making friends and exploring deep into local culture.

Action Steps:

Public Transit

Do you use public transit? People from all walks of life use public transit to get around the city.

Some might be staring out the window the whole time, while others will be nodding off or reading a book. You can ask for directions, the time, or even recommendations for lunch or dinner.

Action Tips:

  • Respect the boundaries and privacy of others, and only start a conversation if they show a willingness to talk to you.
  • Exchange numbers (with consent) and catch up with each other on other trips!

STEM Expo

STEM Expos are hubs for science, tech, engineering, and math buffs to celebrate innovation.

Pro Tip: Dive into the lively booths and interactive displays. Strike up conversations, swap ideas, and you might just find your next collaborator or BFF. Find upcoming Expos, and hit up sites like STEMconnector https://www.stemconnector.com/ or Eventbrite https://www.eventbrite.com/. They’re treasure troves for STEM events, keeping you plugged into the community.

Who knows what exciting discoveries and friendships await!

Street Fairs

Street fairs are vibrant hubs of community life where people come together to celebrate local culture, art, and food. Here’s how to make the most of your experience:

  • Break the ice with a smile and a simple greeting to meet fellow fair-goers.
  • Ask for opinions or recommendations about the food, art, or performances to spark interesting discussions.
  • Join local Facebook groups https://www.facebook.com/groups/2835772899767050/ or forums dedicated to street fairs to mingle with people.

Volunteer Work

If you’re passionate about giving back to society, you could take some time off your busy schedule and volunteer for different worthy causes, such as animal welfare, LGBTQ rights, crisis support, and other human rights programs.

Volunteering at these places will allow you to meet others with similar interests while also doing good for humanity!

Action Tips:

Dog Parks

Let’s face it… everyone loves dogs!

If you have a dog, you can take your furry little friend to a dog park for morning or evening walks and meet people along the way.

You’re bound to meet other dog owners who are there for the same purpose. While your pets play with each other, you can start a conversation.

You don’t even need to think of a topic—just talk about your pet shampoo or food choices and build your conversation from there!

Action Tips:

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Dance Lessons

Get ready to groove and make friends in your new city with dance lessons!

Not only do you get to learn some slick moves, but you also open doors to a community of fellow dancers who share your enthusiasm for grooving to the beat.

Here’s how:

  • Find a dance class in DanceLifeMap https://www.dancelifemap.com/ near your city that suits your style—-salsa, swing, tango, name it.
  • Stay open and approachable in class—-smile, be friendly, and chat during breaks.
  • Connect with your instructor for advice and introductions to fellow dancers.
  • Talk about favorite styles, share tips, and swap stories.

For a visual tutorial, check out this video

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on Youtube!

Airport

If you’re headed to a new city, you’re bound to be near other travelers!

Strike up conversations with strangers while waiting or onboard. Discuss the weather and entertainment options, or seek movie recommendations to build a connection.

Action Tips:

  • Walk around! Don’t get stuck in your seat. Depending on the airport, it could be a huge playground for social meetings.
  • Respect people’s space and cues. If someone seems busy, let them be. Skip the small talk if they’re not responsive—take the hint. And definitely steer clear of those rushing to catch a flight.
  • If you speak to someone on a professional level, you can exchange business cards or emails to stay in touch.

Family Visits and Events

If you have family in the new city, the best place to start building a social connection is at family functions or paying casual visits.

You could reunite with your relatives and meet their friends as well!

Action Tips:

  • Friend get-together! Have a day when your relatives bring along their friends for a friendly new-person meetup.
  • If you’re meeting a twice-removed cousin after a long time, you might want to take your time and learn about what’s changed instead of automatically assuming you know them.

Stargazing Group

Looking for a stellar weekend activity? Try joining an astronomy club https://www.go-astronomy.com/astro-club-search.htm to escape the city lights and immerse yourself in the wonders of the cosmos.

Action Tips:

Hiking

On your weekend off, you could go on a hiking trip to blow off some steam and connect with nature.

And since it’s nearly impossible to NOT be relaxed hiking in nature, you’re bound to meet new friends!

Action Tips:

Fashion Shows

If you’re passionate about fashion or simply enjoy admiring stylish designs, attending a fashion show can be a great way to connect with others who share your interests.

Fashion shows cater to a wide range of tastes and interests, from haute couture to streetwear, so there’s something for everyone!

Action Tips:

  • Use platforms like FashionWeekOnline https://fashionweekonline.com/ to discover upcoming fashion shows nearby.
  • Attend a local fashion show and mingle with fellow attendees who share your passion for style and creativity.

Flash Mob

Have you ever seen a flash mob? Flash mobs are awesome.

But if you’re not interested in watching their performance, you could join them!

You don’t even have to be a professional, in most cases. Chances are, you won’t be the only one watching, so it’s a great opportunity to meet new people.

Action Tips:

Local Sports Competitions

Are you athletic and ready to show off your skills? Try participating in different sports leagues, ranging from football to baseball, golf, or tennis.

Sports have proven to be quite an effective icebreaker for people at the start of friendships, especially since dynamics like teamwork and fair play are in place.

Action Tips:

  • Head to a local court or club near your residence and apply for membership.
  • Find a local sports league on sites like Sportsvite http://sportsvite.com/tour and look for upcoming events.

College Campus

You don’t have to be a student to go to college. Most campuses have public spaces and host public events, both of which are excellent places to find new friends.

If you feel like your college days are well behind you, know that students and professors come from all ages!

Action Steps:

  • Join college groups on Facebook to explore upcoming events or parties. Popular events may include protests, charity 5Ks, music festivals, TEDx, and trade shows.
  • Study at the college library, join the gym, or go to your local college debate tournament!
  • You can check out if your local school has an art exhibit or special collections in the library.

Rock Climbing

Rock climbing is a thrilling adventure that pushes your limits physically and mentally while offering breathtaking views of nature. Whether you’re scaling cliffs or indoor walls, it’s a thrilling escape from the ordinary and a chance to bond with other climbers.

Action Steps:

  • Find group climbing trips on platforms like TripAdvisor or local tourism sites. It’s a great way to discover new spots and connect with fellow climbers.
  • Join naturalist clubs or online forums dedicated to climbing, such Mountain Project https://www.mountainproject.com/ or Reddit’s r/climbing https://www.reddit.com/r/climbing/. hey organize meetups and provide valuable advice for beginners.

Zumba

If you’re looking to meet people and stay active in your new city, Zumba classes offer a fun and vibrant way to do just that.

It is a fantastic opportunity to bond with others who share your love for movement and fitness.

Action Tips:

  • Search for nearby fitness centers, community centers, or dance studios offering Zumba classes
  • Look for trial classes or newbie discounts to try out
  • Join local Zumba groups https://www.facebook.com/krazylegsph on social media for class updates and community connections
  • Organize a Zumba meetup with other newcomers or locals to make friends and have fun.

So, if you’re ready to shake off those new-city jitters and groove your way into a vibrant community, Zumba is the perfect place to start.

Cosplay Events

Cosplay events are exciting gatherings where enthusiasts come together to celebrate their favorite fictional characters through costume and creativity.

These events offer a fantastic opportunity to meet fellow fans, showcase your craftsmanship, and immerse yourself in a world of imagination and fandom.

Try these websites for costume inspirations:

Homebrewing Beer

Homebrewing beer is an exciting hobby that allows you to experiment with flavors and create unique brews to share with friends and family. Plus, there’s nothing quite like the satisfaction of enjoying a pint of beer you brewed yourself.

Action Steps:

For a visual tutorial on homebrewing beer, check this video

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on Youtube.

ATV

When your weekend finally rolls around, consider revving up some excitement by hitting the trails on an ATV adventure https://www.getyourguide.com/-l32/-tc38/?cmp=bing&ad_id=78409121793186&adgroup_id=1254543389831963&bid_match_type=bb&campaign_id=434040551&device=c&feed_item_id=&keyword=-l32%2F&loc_interest_ms=13695&loc_physical_ms=145648&match_type=b&msclkid=b4c0e6c3f1571f3d343680ec94d0ac56&network=o&partner_id=CD951&target_id=dat-2330208736879603&utm_adgroup=lc%3D32%3Aflorence%7Cfn%3Df1%7Cagt%3Ddsa&utm_campaign=dc%3D29%3Ait%7Clc%3D32%3Aflorence%7Cct%3Dcore%7Cln%3D29%3Aen%7Ctc%3Dall&utm_keyword=-l32%2F&utm_medium=paid_search&utm_query=atv+ATV+tours&utm_source=bing&visitor-id=IYJ0XFT0B55ZZCC32JLNFJBCQK7SGKFT&locale_autoredirect_optout=true. Nothing beats the rush of wind against your face and the thrill of conquering rugged terrain.

And with the adrenaline pumping and the scenery whizzing by, you’re practically guaranteed to make new buddies along the way!

Action Tips:

  • Scope out ATV tours and rentals on websites like TripAdvisor https://www.tripadvisor.com/ or local tourism platforms
  • Plug into ATV enthusiast communities https://atvconnection.com/forums/ by joining online forums or clubs
  • Make connections with fellow thrill-seekers at specialty outdoor stores catering to ATV enthusiasts

Block Party

Do you even know your neighbor? How about the person who lives at the house 3 doors down from you?

As long as they’re approachable, you can start a conversation with just two words: “Hey, neighbor!” And you’re set! Ask if they would be interested in attending a block party. Make some lemonade and ask neighbors to hang out.

Action Steps:

  • Host a casual housewarming party with drinks and snacks.
  • Chitchat in passing. You might be surprised at the conversation you can get going—even complaining about the landlord!

Kayaking Contest

Get ready for adrenaline-pumping kayak contests! Connect with like-minded paddlers and test your skills in stunning natural settings.

Action Steps:

Coffee Shop

Do you have a favorite local coffee shop? My go-to place is warm and fuzzy—and best of all, I know the workers and regulars!

Do some studying or try remote working at your favorite local coffee shop. Along the way, you’re bound to make some coffee buddies.

Action Tips:

  • Look for sites like Likemind http://likemind.us/ to find different coffee dates in the world. The beauty of these dates is that anyone can show up!
  • Avoid the dark corner. If you like to sit alone in the corner, try sitting at the door instead. You’ll be the first person people see when they come in, and you’ll also have more opportunities to network this way.

Art & Crafts

Feel the creative itch? Dive into arts and crafts to express yourself and meet like-minded folks in your new city. Here’s how:

Toy Museums

Visiting a toy museum https://www.atlasobscura.com/lists/toy-museums-collections can be like stepping into a nostalgic wonderland filled with treasures from childhood’s past. But why not make the experience even richer by connecting with fellow enthusiasts?

Pro Tip: Keep an eye out for others who share your fascination with toys. Strike up conversations about favorite childhood playthings, memorable displays, or the evolution of toys over the years.

Reminder: Be mindful of people’s cues. If they seem deeply engrossed in examining a display or are with young children, they might not be open to chatting.

Side Hustle

One job not paying the bills? Don’t let that stop you from making friends in a new city.

Try taking on a part-time job—whether that’s a side hustle, babysitting, or even dogsitting.

Unlike a full-time job, the lack of competition makes people more approachable and sociable, meaning there’s a better chance of making a work buddy. Nice!

Action Tips:

  • Don’t be a lunch loner! Participate in small talk during lunch or breaks, and consider sharing these funny videos to spice up a dull lunch conversation.
  • Suggest after-work coffee, drinks, or dinner.
  • Here are 50 Side Hustle ideas (source) to try.

Anonymous Meetings

We all have issues we’re dealing with.

Sometimes, all we want is to be surrounded by people with similar experiences and struggles—and we can still be anonymous if we want to!

Make friends at group therapy meetings or online, and bond through shared experiences.

Action Tips:

  • Afraid to go in person? Start online. Try an app like Postmodern https://postmodern.app/ or post on Reddit to let your feelings be heard.
  • Start small with the right people. No need to connect with everyone—just those that you trust.
  • Be the storyteller. Do you have the right story to tell? Are you conveying the right message? Learn the essentials of getting your message across: How to Tell a Great Story: Learn Science of Storytelling

Improv Nights

Ever attended an improv night?

These days, there’s a stage for every comedic whim:

Improv nights are perfect for connecting with fellow comedy enthusiasts, and who knows, you might even stumble upon your next comedic partner!

Brush up on your improved skills by harnessing your confidence with our article: How to Overcome Fear and Conquer Self-Doubt.

Chess Club

If you’re passionate about chess and love engaging in strategic battles on the board, why not connect with chess players in your area?

Joining a chess club offers you the opportunity to meet fellow chess lovers and improve your skills through friendly matches and discussions.

Action Tips:

  • Participate in online chess forums https://www.chess.com/forum
  • Check this Chessbee https://www.chessbe.com/ community website to connect with players nearby
  • Attend chess tournaments or events hosted by your local club to test your skills and meet new players!

Culinary Tour

Have you discovered your favorite local eateries yet?

Take a stroll and explore the culinary delights your area has to offer. From quaint cafes to bustling bistros, there’s something for every palate.

Action Tips:

  • Join a foodie meetup group like Eatwith to connect with fellow culinary enthusiasts.
  • Don’t be afraid to ask for recommendations.
  • Strike up a conversation with locals or restaurant staff for the best-hidden spots you might miss.

Wedding

A wedding is among the most popular events where large groups of people socialize.

While celebrating the new couple, you should seize the opportunity to meet new people who have mutual friends just like you!

Action Tips:

  • Hang out at the buffet or bar if you’re solo. This way, you’re bound to run into other solo attendees.
  • Have some conversation starters like “How do you know the bride or groom?” or “Have you tried the cocktails? They’re ah-mazing!”

Orchestra

Being part of a community orchestra isn’t just about music—it’s about making connections and friends.

Action Tips:

  • Talk about shared interests or swap tips on improving your skills with your fellow group members

  • Respect others’ focus during sessions; pick the right moment to chat

  • Exchange contact info to keep in touch, share ideas, or plan social events

Want to join a community orchestra? Check out resources, such as League of American Orchestras https://www.musicalchairs.info/orchestras for directories and info on programs and performances.

Potluck Dinner

We all love good food and good company.

Join in the fun at potluck dinners, whether hosted at a friend’s house or organized online, and create lasting memories through shared meals.

Action Tips:

On a Railroad

Railroad adventure offers a unique opportunity to connect with fellow travelers, exchanging tales and forging fleeting bonds in the middle of the wheels on tracks.

Hop aboard a train and unlock a world of different adventures:

  • Seek scenic views or new destinations
  • Chase the rhythmic pulse of the locomotive
  • connect and talk with other travelers along the way

To learn more on traveling life-hacks, try this: How to Make Friends While Traveling with Matt Kepnes

City Clean-up Events

City clean-up events provide an avenue for connecting with fellow residents who share a passion for enhancing our surroundings.

These gatherings offer a platform for civic-minded individuals:

  • those driven by the desire to make a tangible difference,
  • enthusiasts of community engagement,
  • devotees of environmental stewardship

Pro Tip: Check event details for gear needs, grab reusable gloves and bags early. Encourage others to do the same for an eco-friendly effort. Lead with reusables and spread the word on waste reduction.

Toastmasters Club

If you’re passionate about public speaking and honing your communication skills, why not join a local Toastmasters club in your area?

At Toastmasters, you’ll have the opportunity to meet with different individuals who share your interest in becoming more proficient speakers.

Action Tips:

To harness the power of your speaking skills, try this: 16 Science-Based Public Speaking Tips To Be a Master Speaker

Social Causes

Whether you’re speaking out for equal rights or raising environmental awareness, social cause gatherings are great places to find like-minded people who share similar beliefs.

Not only can you rally alongside them for a specific cause, but you could also go out for drinks or a meal after or before the event.

Action Tips:

Health Workshops

Discover health workshops—a gathering of wellness enthusiasts like you, eager to nurture mind, body, and spirit. Connect with fellow seekers and find your next wellness buddy!

Pro Tip: Check the workshop agenda and bring your yoga mat, water bottle, and an open mind. Choose reusable items to reduce waste and promote a healthier planet.

Social Media Groups and Events

If a photo, comment, or video catches your eye, nothing is stopping you from reaching out to the person who posted it!

By joining different local groups, you can tune into community events and even join them offline.

Action Tips:

  • On Facebook, click on “Discover” in the group tabs and look for suggestions based on categories or location.
  • Start commenting and asking questions! Or, if you’re feeling more driven, create an “outreach list.” Write a go-to template filled with your most common comments, like “Hey! That’s a great picture. Did you take it yourself?” Start outreaching friends in your local area and hope for a response back!

Magician Class

Looking for a magical way to add some excitement to your week? Consider enrolling in a magician class.

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Bowling

Looking for a laid-back way to unwind on your weekend off? Consider rolling a few frames at the local bowling alley.

Action Tips:

Reminder: Don’t forget to wear the right shoes and mind your bowling manners to ensure a smooth and enjoyable experience for everyone.

Online Games

If you love online gaming on your Xbox or PlayStation, you could meet with other users who live in the same area!

And if you’re into a specific game, why not join a local game tournament or watch from the sidelines?

Action Tips:

  • Talk to other gamers regularly on voice chat.
  • Ask users to meet up at a local video game shop in the city.
  • Go to your local video game tournament or meetup and play!

Online Forums

Have you ever joined an online forum?

These days, there’s literally a forum for everything:

  • people who love Siberian Huskies
  • people who like to compete with Rubik’s cubes
  • people who like to discuss the best wedding toasts

… the list is endless.

These forums are great for meeting new people, and if you’re lucky, you might end up meeting someone in real life!

And if you work long hours like I do, it’s not a bad place to start.

Action Tips:

Professional Networking Groups

If you’re not into in-person events, you can opt for professional networking groups to meet business-minded people.

Not only can you boost your network, but you can also build personal connections in the city.

Action Steps:

At the Movies

Have you ever gone to the movies alone?

It’s not as scary as it sounds! Going to the movies alone is the perfect excuse to meet others. Try smaller theaters and morning times.

Action Tips:

  • Look for weekday or morning shows when buying tickets. Most people who go to the movies alone prefer these showtimes.
  • Got popcorn? Try chatting up people at the concession stand before buying your snacks!

At a Diner

Diners are great places to interact with locals while enjoying a cup of coffee or scrambled eggs. I love the ones with seats around a counter so you get to sit next to people—it’s much easier to start a casual chat!

Since it’s a friendly environment where strangers sit closely, you can easily strike up a friendly conversation.

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At a Colleague’s Place

When you’re new in town, the only people you’re likely to interact with are your colleagues from work. And if you’re friendly and approachable, your colleague might just invite you to a party at their place, where you can meet new people. Score!

Action Tips:

  • Observe your colleague’s vibe and lifestyle. It gives insight into their circle and if you sync well. Plus, it helps gauge if they’re a match for you.
  • Match with their personality. Another hack is to get to know their personality type. Are they extroverted? Agreeable? Neurotic? Find out with our free personality quiz: Big 5 (OCEAN) Personality Test

At the Flea Market

If you’re low on cash, the flea market is a good place to buy used stuff. You’re also likely to find people who also like to shop smart and save money!

Action Tips:

  • Use sites like Flea Market Zone https://fleamarketzone.com/ to find an updated market list in your area.
  • Next time you’re shopping, let the stuff you find spark a chat! Whether it’s vintage tapes, quirky vases, or handmade goodies, each item could kick off an interesting convo!

At Car Shows

If you’re a car enthusiast or simply appreciate classic automobiles, attending a car show can be a fantastic way to meet like-minded individuals who share your passion.

Action Tips:

  • Use websites like CarShowFinder http://carshowfinder.com to discover upcoming car shows in your area
  • Kickstart a convo by chatting about your top car picks, seeking event tips, or swapping vehicle tales!

At a Record Store

If you’re into vintage Broadway original cast recordings, cool bands, or jazz, you can find people with similar tastes when browsing at a record store.

And striking up a conversation is easy. All you have to do is ask for recommendations or offer one!

Action Tips:

  • Use sites like RecordStores. I would love https://recordstores.love/ to find all the record stores in your area.
  • Visit your local record store and ask a random stranger what their favorite band is. You might make a friend—and find some cool new tunes in the process!

In a Carpool

Carpooling is a great way to cut your carbon footprint and connect with fellow commuters. Sharing rides creates a cool sense of community on the go!

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Photowalks

Exploring your new city through the lens of a camera can be an exciting way to connect with fellow enthusiasts and discover hidden masterpieces in your new city.

Action Tips: Explore photography events and workshops on Eventbrite https://www.eventbrite.com/ created in your new city. Participating in these activities can introduce you to like-minded individuals and provide opportunities for meaningful connections!

You can also join photography-focused groups on social media platforms, such as Reddit https://www.reddit.com/r/photography/, where members often organize photo walks and share ideas on photography.

On Yelp

If you’re active on Yelp https://www.yelp.com/ and love to speak your mind, chances are, someone might enjoy your witty reviews or vice versa. Why not meet up this way?

Action Tips:

  • Yelp isn’t too different from Facebook or Instagram in that you can follow people and respond to their reviews. Strike up a conversation, and if you get a response, you can take the conversation elsewhere—either online or in person.
  • Make sure to stay active! Leave Yelp reviews often, and you’ll be bound to get noticed.

On Bicycle

Whether you’re a casual rider or a hardcore cyclist, hitting the road on your bicycle opens up a world of adventure and connections with like-minded cyclists.

Action Tips:

Reminder: Stay aware of your surroundings and practice caution while biking to ensure your safety and the safety of others on the road.

Airbnb

Whether you’re a guest or a host, Airbnb rentals offer a great opportunity to meet people from all across the globe (and earn a little extra cash on the side!).

Action Tips:

  • As long as the feeling is mutual, you could ask people to share their contact information and stay in touch whenever you or they are in town.
  • Try couch surfing! You can even sign up to sites like Couchsurfing https://www.couchsurfing.com/ and (literally) sleep on someone’s couch. This is a great way to travel and meet people without actually traveling far.
  • Try an Airbnb experience—many locals are offering classes and experiences you can do to meet fellow locals (or the creator of the Airbnb experience!).

Heritage Prevention Group

Join local heritage preservation groups or attend related events in your new city. You’ll not only support a worthy cause but also meet people who share your passion for safeguarding cultural heritage.

Art Galleries

Art galleries offer a fantastic chance to immerse yourself in creativity and culture. And the best part? Every piece of artwork is a potential conversation starter.

Action Tips:

  • Don’t just stroll through the gallery, engage with the pieces. Take your time to appreciate the brushstrokes, the colors, and the emotions they evoke.
  • Comment on art and connect with fellow enthusiasts.
  • Take photos of favorites to remember and share. Not only will it serve as a memory of your visit, but it could also spark conversations with others who share your taste in art.

Check out ArtNet https://www.artnet.com/artists/ Artsy https://www.artsy.net/ or nearby art galleries. They’ve got up-to-date info on exhibitions, so you can easily plan your next art excursion.

At a Local Food Truck

Local food trucks in large cities are hotspots for great street food and social interactions! You may even be able to meet people from different cultures, if you try food outside your comfort zone.

Action Tips:

  • Use sites like FoodTrucksIn https://www.foodtrucksin.com/ to search and locate local food trucks in your area.
  • When contemplating your next restaurant excursion, why not plan for a food truck? Hit up the next food truck—and make friends with the truck owner! After all, they’re probably not going anywhere anytime soon.

The DMV

I know what you’re thinking… The DMV!? However, everyone who owns or needs a driver’s license ends up at the DMV at some point. Instead of gluing yourself to the phone while waiting in line, take this time to talk to others.

Pro Tip: Whenever there’s a DMV, there’s going to be a long wait. Resist the urge to glue your head to your phone and find an opportunity—sit next to someone who looks friendly or strike up a random conversation.

Shooting Range

Target practice can be extremely stress relieving, according to Health Fitness Revolution https://www.healthfitnessrevolution.com/top-10-health-benefits-going-shooting-range/.

Plus, you could meet new people with similar interests. Perhaps even a worthy competitor.

Action Tips:

  • Use sites like Where to Shoot https://www.wheretoshoot.org/ to find shooting ranges near you. This site is managed by the National Shooting Sports Foundation, so you know you’ll be going where the pros go.
  • Ask for tips! If you don’t know how to shoot, safety is a top priority. You’ll likely find the other range-goers are happy to give a few pointers.

Glamping

Whether it’s swapping stories around a campfire or exploring the natural beauty of your surroundings together, glamping offers a perfect opportunity to bond with others over shared experiences!

Action Tips:

Check out REI https://www.rei.com/ or Amazon https://www.amazon.com/s?k=glamping&crid=277PTKCXXUS44&sprefix=glampin%2Caps%2C338&ref=nb_sb_noss_2 for top-notch glamping gear. They’ve got everything from tents to sleeping bags. And if you’re looking for unique accommodations, Glamping Hub https://glampinghub.com/ is the place to go.

The Mechanic

We all experience car trouble or accidents while commuting daily in city traffic. While waiting for your car to get fixed, you could have a conversation with another customer to kill time.

Action Tips:

  • Proactively look for certified body shops to save time and money.
  • You can also ask people for recommendations on Facebook groups.

Bookkeeping

Bookkeeping cooperatives offer an excellent chance to connect with fellow professionals and expand your network.

Action Tips:

  • Swap the usual office look for something fun, like dressing as a quirky accountant, ledger superhero, or financial enthusiast. Let your imagination shine to make a lasting impression.
  • Grab some snapshots! Take group photos or selfies with other people during breaks. It’s a great way to bond and create lasting memories beyond numbers.

Halloween Parties

Halloween parties are a great opportunity to find and meet new people. Plus, any costume is a great conversation starter.

Action Tips:

  • Spice it up! Don’t go as your plain old self. Dress up as a video game character, Disney prince/princess, or something completely hilarious! Use this as an opportunity to stand out—after all, Halloween only comes once a year.
  • Take photos with others. A great selfie is the easiest conversation starter you can use—plus, you’ll have a memory to last a lifetime.

Newspaper/Magazine Stands

If you enjoy reading the old-fashioned way, you’re bound to run into like-minded people at 8 a.m. at newspaper or magazine stands.

Action Tip: What’s going on? You can talk about the news or any topic related to what they’re reading. Strike up a conversation—it’s as simple as asking, “How’s the weather?”

Libraries

If you like spending time at a public library, you can interact with others… as long as you do it quietly!

Action Tips:

  • Chat with librarians! They’re knowledgeable and love talking about books.
  • Ask for book recommendations and strike up conversations with people who share your interests.

Mindfulness Group

Engaging with a mindfulness group can offer a serene space to connect with others who share an interest in personal well-being and inner peace.

Initiating conversations in these groups is simple. You can discuss meditation techniques, share experiences, or inquire about resources for deepening your practice!

Action Tips:

For more helpful tips on Mindfulness, try this: 14 Amazing Benefits of Meditation That Actually Rewire Your Brain

The Dentist

We all enjoy dental hygiene but hate going to the dentist’s office.

But you’d be surprised how talkative people can be while waiting. Don’t be shy about joining the conversation!

Action Tip: Share your vulnerability. Are you going in for a regular checkup—or even worse, a tooth removal? Share your fears, and you may set others at ease. After all, you might not be the only one nervous.

Wine Tasting

Wine tastings are fun opportunities to try different wines and chat with fellow enthusiasts. Whether you’re a pro or a newbie, it’s a welcoming chance to learn.

Action Tips:

Remember to drink responsibly and in moderation!

Crochet

If you enjoy spending time at crochet classes, you can learn new techniques and bond with fellow crafters… just mind your hooks!

Action Tips:

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Theme Parks

Do you like theme parks? Theme parks are great for the adrenaline rush—and not to mention FUN—that people experience all day.

This translates to a lot of excitement and happy vibes—a great place for socializing!

Action Tip: Find the rides with long lines. If you’re into deep or longer conversations, that’ll be your golden ticket to making a friend. Be careful who you choose to stand in line with, though… you might be stuck with them for a while!

Bazaar

Unlike conventional retail spaces, bazaars are filled with a unique ambiance, bustling with enthusiastic vendors and curious shoppers with engaging conversations and discovery.

Action Tip: Take a virtual tour through various online platforms https://www.trafalgar.com/real-word/markets-and-bazaars-around-the-world/ or apps https://bazaar.co/discover/ to discover bazaars near your city. Plan your visit to those nearby for an immersive cultural experience.

Pottery Classes

Pottery classes offer a delightful blend of creativity and relaxation, inviting both beginners and seasoned artisans to connect with each other while exploring the art of sculpting with clay.

Action Tips:

Also, check out these top spots for finding workshops and tutorials, such as Skillshare https://www.skillshare.com/ or Etsy Workshops https://sellerevents.etsy.com/, to learn pottery online from experts in DIY crafts.

Car Washes

People at the car wash are easy to talk to. You can start a conversation simply by asking for recommendations on products, body shops, insurance companies, etc.

Or you can strike up a conversation about your car—no matter how beautiful (or ugly) it is!

Action Tips: Got a car that needs to be washed? Try going for the manual wash instead of the fully automatic one where you don’t leave your car. You’ll have more opportunities to meet others this way.

Farmer’s Market

If you enjoy organic produce, you can visit the farmer’s market in your area to shop for different products.

Unlike commercial supermarkets, these markets have a more casual setting with more vocal customers and salespeople, so it’s easier to talk to other shoppers who are looking to eat better.

Action Tip: Visit the National Farmers Market Directory https://www.ams.usda.gov/local-food-directories/farmersmarkets to look for locations near you.

Networking Events

In a big city, there’s always a networking event going on.

And it doesn’t have to be strict to meet others—there are events for many things:

  • IT professionals
  • dog lovers
  • people who love writing
  • people who love cryptocurrency
  • mothers who are about to have their first baby

Who knows? A casual conversation for a few minutes could be the start of a new friendship.

Action Tips:

Conventions

I live very close to a big event center, and there are always fascinating conventions open to the public. Recently, I went to the model train show (my daughter loves trains, and we had nothing else to do) and while standing in line to see a big model, I saw an old friend from high school! We started chatting and now are hanging out again.

Action Tips:

  • Look up the nearest event center and see which events are open to the public.
  • Have an open mind. I am not super into trains, but I was willing to learn, and who knew we would have such a great time?

Master the Art of the Follow-Up

You had a great conversation at trivia night… now what? The magic is in the follow-up. A friendly stranger doesn’t become a real friend without a little bit of intention. Mastering the follow-up is the key to building real momentum.

Action Steps:

  • Get their contact info smoothly. As the conversation is ending on a high note, make your move. Say something like, “Hey, I’ve really enjoyed chatting about [shared interest]. Would you be up for grabbing a coffee sometime? What’s the best way to get in touch?” It’s direct, confident, and shows you’re serious about connecting again.
  • Follow up within 48 hours. Don’t let a great connection go cold! Send a simple text within a day or two that references your conversation. For example: “Hey [Name], it’s [Your Name] from [Place You Met]. Great talking about [Topic] with you! Hope you have a great rest of your week.”
  • Suggest a specific, low-pressure second hangout. The phrase “Let’s hang out sometime” is where potential friendships often fade. Be the one to make a concrete plan. Suggest a specific activity tied to your conversation: “There’s that new brewery we talked about, want to check it out this Friday night?”
  • Take the initiative. Especially when you’re new to a city, be prepared to be the planner for the first couple of hangouts. People are busy, and taking the lead shows you’re invested in building a connection.

Use Your “Weak Ties” to Build a Strong Network

You might think you don’t know anyone in your new city, but you probably have more connections than you realize. Your coworkers, your neighbor, that friend-of-a-friend on social media—sociologists call these “weak ties,” and they are a superpower for expanding your social circle.

Action Steps:

  • Become a “Yes” person. In your first few months, say yes to every casual invitation, even if it seems uninteresting. That coworker’s seemingly boring barbecue could be where you meet a whole group of new people who share your passion for rock climbing or board games. Every event is an opportunity.
  • Ask for introductions and suggestions. Don’t be shy about letting your existing contacts know you’re looking to connect. Ask your coworker, “I’m trying to find a good book club, do you know of any?” or tell your cousin, “Next time you and your friends go out for trivia, I’d love to tag along if there’s room!” People are often happy to help.
  • Host a low-key gathering. Be the catalyst for connection. Host a simple game night, potluck, or watch party at your place. Tell the few people you know to each bring a friend. This is the fastest way to multiply your social network and position yourself as a connector.

Go Out and Conquer!

“There are no strangers here; only friends you haven’t met yet.”—William Butler Yeats

I’m sure there are many places on the list above that you’ve never considered before when meeting new people. The next time you visit any of these places, go for it!

Learning how to meet new people is one thing, and doing it is the difficult part. However, by using some of our action tips, you can proactively plan your conversations and improve your chances of building social connections.

Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs) on Making Friends

What are some fun activities or hobbies I can try to meet new people in my new city?

Consider joining a sports team, attending fitness classes, joining a book club, or taking up a creative hobby like painting or pottery. These activities provide natural opportunities to interact with others who share your interests.

Are there any apps or online platforms specifically designed to connect people in a new city?

There are several apps and online platforms designed to help you connect with people in your new city. Bumble BFF, Friender, and Hey! VINA is a popular app that is specifically for making friends. You can also explore social networking sites like Reddit to connect with people in your area.

What are some strategies for overcoming shyness or fear of meeting new people?

Overcoming shyness or fear of meeting new people can be challenging but rewarding. Start by pushing yourself out of your comfort zone in small ways, such as striking up conversations with strangers or attending social events alone.

What are some ways to initiate conversations and keep them flowing naturally when meeting new people?

Initiating conversations with new people can be as simple as offering a compliment, asking for recommendations, or commenting on shared experiences. Be attentive, listen actively, and look for common ground to keep the conversation flowing naturally.

How important is it to step out of my comfort zone when trying to make friends in a new city?

Stepping out of your comfort zone is essential for making friends in a new city. While it can be intimidating, challenging yourself to try new things and meet new people will ultimately lead to personal growth and meaningful connections.

Key Takeaways on Making Friends Successful

So, over to you! Time for you to meet new people and conquer.

Here’s a recap of the article:

  • Bust through busy schedules! Regular video calls with long-distance buddies or local social clubs can add social spice to your life.
  • When you’re out mingling, be the conversation starter! Drop a genuine compliment, lend an ear, and who knows? You might just make a new friend.
  • Sharpen those social skills! Whether it’s mastering the art of listening from a good read or diving into workshops on communication, a little practice goes a long way.
  • Say “yes”’ to those random invites and dive headfirst into new adventures. From impromptu concerts to joining a cycling crew, these surprises can open doors to new connections and spice up your life!

For the next steps, let’s learn how to make friends—one step at a time: How to Make Friends As An Adult In 5 Easy to Use Steps

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